“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue…” (Proverbs 31:26)
Attitude, women have a lot of it! We come out of our mothers’ wombs with it! It is our ever present partner, throughout life. It can be a blessing, but more often than not, it is a curse.
Women have a huge influence on those in the home. More than we think! Our children watch us, day in and day out. They are watching our every move, listening to our every word, and then, trying to imitate us. Nancy Campell, founder of Above Rubies, wrote in her book, The Power of Motherhood, “Children will learn far more from your daily attitude in the home, than they will learn from what you teach them.” (chp.7,pg. 49) If we are grouchy, the children will be grouchy. If we are sad, the children will be sad. If we are joyful, happy, and content with our daily lives, then the children will follow suit. For example, if you go about your tasks, with no complaints and no drama, your children will see that. You show them that everyone has daily chores that must be completed, whether we like it or not. You also teach them, that they are to go about their tasks without a word or sigh. You show them how to love their jobs and how to do them well. You teach them all this, without a single word! That is pretty powerful!
Our husbands, too, whether we realize it or not, are affected by us. Our attitude, disposition, and how we speak all play a part in their well-being and emotions. After working all day, away from us, listening to the complaints at work, they do not want to come home to a laundry list of our complaints. Our husbands may be nice and sit and listen to us, however, deep down that is not what they want to hear. They also do not want to be given a huge list of chores that they need to complete because we are done for the day! This will only make them dread coming home and make them seem quiet, tired, and not sociable. Part of our job, is to make the home a place of welcome, peace, and most importantly a castle of protection, from the evils outside. Our husbands want a home that greets them with smiles, laughter, and a listening ear. They need us to boost their confidence and to remind them of our gratitude for their jobs.
Now, I am not saying that we should not complain or talk about things with our husbands. This is important, but there is a place and time for such conversations. They should not be the first things out of our mouths when they step through the door. We should give them time to settle in, talk to the children, and talk to us about their day.
In our world, today, women are told to seek and use their “power” to find their place in the world. However, we do not need to do that. We have and always will have the power to influence, teach, and affect those in our very home. Our loved ones are our number one priority. They have been given to us by God, for us to care for, love, and teach. “…her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her;” (Proverbs 31:28)