You are the HEART of the Home

The Heart. It is a very powerful organ! It enables us to live, grow, and thrive in the world. It cleans our blood and renews our vascular system! It rejuvenates the body! Amazing! Yet, how often do we actually think about it? We don’t even have to think about the heart for it to function. It is one of the hidden organs that we only recognize if it is hurt.

The homemaker plays a similar role. We are hidden from society and are rarely given a second thought about. However, our calling is one of society’s most important. Without us doing our jobs correctly, the world will hurt. The home and family will become extinct and a worse society will rise.

As wives and mothers, we have been entrusted with the body of the home. We make it run smoothly, grow in grace, and make it a place of rejuvenation from the outside world. It is a place for its many residents, to receive renewed oxygen and the means to continue living in a godly way. We provide the world with God-fearing members who will better society by their love of God, by their faith, and by living morally sound lives.

If the “heart” stops, then its body will fall. If the homemaker forgets about her duties, her calling from God, then the rest of the family will fall. The husband will no longer have a refuge to come home to and he will lose his desire to return to it. The children will no longer grow in a godly manner and will not now how to conquer the outside world. The home will turn into a place of chaos and become only a place to sleep at night. The body will loose its much needed love, virtues, and laughter.

While it is important to help those outside our homes, our first priority must lie within our own walls. We cannot aid others if our own hearts are failing. We must rise against today’s message that tells us staying at home is an imprisonment. We must stop believing the lies that it is “not making us who we are”, or that staying at home is failing to allow us  to “spread our wings”. Homemaking is the calling given by Our Lord Himself- to all wives and mothers. It is what we are meant to do. Even if we are not recognized in this life, if we fulfill God’s will, our reward will be great in the next!

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The Joy of Cooking

“A wife’s charm delights her husband, and her skill puts fat on his bones.” ~ Sirach 26:13

One of a homemaker’s greatest tasks is cooking. Some women love it and others have a hard time with it.  Some women have never been instructed in the kitchen, and are scared of it. It can be a love and hate relationship. However one feels about it, cooking is an important part of a homemaker’s day!

As queens of the home, we are responsible for the health of our families. We are given the job of preparing foods that satisfy everyone’s stomachs. It is our obligation to make sure that what we putting on our families’ plates, is something that will bring strength and refreshment to our husbands, and aid the growth and development of our children.

So, where do we start? First thing is to cook! All of the meals that are pre-made in your frozen aisles at the grocery, are FULL of unhealthy chemicals and carbs. They do not satisfy and definitely do not taste as good as a home cooked meal.

Stop eating out! We all want to save money, right? Well, you can help your budget if you stop driving through the drive thru or going to restaurants a couple times of the week. Most of the food from these places are full of fat, carbs, and are not exactly fresh.

If you are not familiar with cooking, you should start. There are tons of simple recipes that you can pick up and try. You don’t have to be a professional chef to cook. It is really a quite simple thing to do. Cooking only gets better with time and practice. Try, try again and you will succeed!

Now I know what some of you are thinking, “I am soooo tired at the end of the day and I just don’t feel like doing it.” or “Cooking takes too much of my time, so I just can’t.”  These thoughts go through every woman’s mind from time to time. Thankfully, we live in a thriving country where we can, after a very long day or hard day, go to the nearest McDonalds, other fast food food joints, or even the grocery and pick up a pizza. Sometimes we do just need to do that! However, this should not become the norm or a habit.

One of the greatest things about cooking, is the satisfaction that you get after you are done. The joy of the kitchen, comes from seeing your family laughing and talking around the table enjoying what has been prepared. After the meal, it is in seeing everyone with full bellies, ready to continue on with the day.

So, homemakers, get into your kitchens! Start learning what foods are healthy and beneficial for your families. It may be hard at first, but with time and patience you can “put fat on his bones.”

The Importance of Sacrifice

“Without sacrifice, there is no love.” ~ St. Maximilian Kolbe

Sacrificing is something that all Catholics are asked to do. It is a way in which we are brought closer to God. By it, we are able to unite ourselves to Our Lord on the cross.

What is a sacrifice? Sacrifices originated from the Old Testament. The Jewish people were asked, by God, to offer their best animals and best foods. This was done out of reparation for sins, thanksgiving for blessings received, and when wanting to speak with the Almighty. It was also, a way of expressing their love and service to the Lord. This is why they gave Him their best.

Theses sacrifices continued to be made until God provided the ultimate sacrifice. The Perfect Lamb. The Son of God. Christ’s death on the cross was the cost that had to be paid. It was the perfect example of love. God loves us, so much, that He Himself was willing to die for us.

St. Paul tells us “Therefore, be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” (Ephesians 5:1-2) We are called to follow in Christ’s footsteps and sacrifice. We no longer have to offer physical sacrifices of animals and food. However, we are asked to give Him our time, wants, and desires.

Sacrificing is a huge part of the homemaker’s and the mother’s life. Without it, we fail in our duties and become self-centered monsters. Our vocation is a vocation made for others. From the time we step out of bed, until the time we go back into it, we must act for those around us.

In today’s society, we are constantly told to do what we want and do whatever we “feel” like doing. This is the enemy’s message.  Satan is the complete opposite of Christ. He lives only to satisfy himself and to try to put an end to Christ’s Church. When we adhere to his messages, we only fall closer to his grasp and the loss of our soul. Christ, however, lives for others. He suffered immensely, during His passion, out of love for us. If even Our Lord had to suffer, then why should’t we?

Our vocation as wives and mother’s, gives us countless opportunities to think outside of ourselves. We think about the needs of our children and husbands. We make the home enjoyable for all who live in it and come to visit. We care for our friends and their needs. The list can go on and on.

This is not suppose to make us sad and wish for another lifestyle. This is the way of life that we said “yes” to when we stood before Our Lord and said our vows in front of Him. We must, therefore, embrace it. It is what we have been called to do. It is God’s will for us and it is only in fulfilling His will, that we will be truly happy. I have yet, to meet a person who is constantly giving and is sad. The most generous people, are the happiest.

So, when you are dreading your next chore or wish for time to yourself, think about Our Lord on the cross. Think about the love that you will show to those around you. Think about the joy you will receive at the end of the day, when you see your family satisfied and peacefully sleeping. We may not see our reward in this life, but hopefully, we will in the next.

“Without love, deeds, even the most brilliant, count as nothing.” ~ St. Therese of Lisieux

A House of Prayer

 “My house shall be called a house of prayer” Mark 11:17

20170612_122455Is your home a house of prayer? If someone came over for a visit, would they be able to say that your home is definitely a Catholic home? Are there reminders of our heavenly friends scattered throughout it? In order for our homes to be places of peace, joy, and love for Our Lord, they must be places of prayer.  They should be filled with constant reminders of our final goal.

Why is this important? One of the main jobs of a homemaker is the sanctification of her children. She is to guide them on their way to salvation. She will be held accountable for their souls and the way in which they turn out.

She is also responsible for the soul of her husband. One of the greatest tasks of marriage is to bring your spouse with you into eternity. We are called to help each other obtain Heaven and to pray for one another.

So, what are some ways that we can turn our homes into houses of prayer?

  1. Set up a prayer table/home altar. It can be as elaborate or as simple as you want it. Having this in your home will enable you to have a sacred space. It will give you a place for your rosaries, statues, Bible, etc. It will also give everyone something to look at when you have your family devotion time. I am including a picture of ours in the article, as an example. There are also some examples on the blog’s Pinterest page. 
  2. Have a family devotion time. “The Family that prays together, stays together.” This saying we have all heard and it is a very true statement. Prayer time should be incorporated into your daily routine. It should be at a time when everyone is present. I know that you are thinking, “But my older children are always gone or too busy with extra-curricular activities.” This may be true, however, it is important for them to pray with you. If they have a friend over, invite them to join you. If they have somewhere to go, do it before they go or wait until they come back. The prayer time should not be very long, especially if you have little ones.( A rosary only takes fifteen to thirty minutes. )
  3. Have images throughout your house. Religious pictures and quotes are wonderful to have. They can remind us throughout the day to offer a quick prayer for someone or something. They also remind the children of the spiritual world and how it is always present.

There are many other ways to bring prayer into your families. If prayer is continually reiterated in your homes then your children and husbands will flourish. They will be more ready to adhere to what Our Lord is calling them to be.

What are some ways that you bring prayer into the home? Please answer in the comment boxes below. We would love to hear some more ideas!